Well , I dont know if in US people use Ares(P2P) , Anyways im gonna put this because i know somebody does...
If you have a bad connect like me (2MB DL - 50KBPS UPLOAD) , You can't play/do something with your ares open , because if u have a popular music/video/etc , u will seed people so they can download , so .. if u want to stop seeding:
go to your library>
look for the music/video/etc>
Right click on it>
And u will see the option "Share/Unshare" And thats it , if u have a BIIG library , just select all 'em and do the same..
Hope u understand

By the way , if u have router and still on "CONNECTED" and never connect, just open this ports.. they may work
*8969
*8080
And you need to have the latest version (Google>Ares Galaxy)
Also too if ares isnt working pretty well, you can download LimeWire/FrostWire..
Cya